Thursday, August 25, 2011

The Guilt

So I have started asking around to folks who have 2 under 2 or roughly around that time frame and ask if they have guilt over having a second child so quickly because let me tell you...2.5 seconds after I got over the shock and became happy I immediately felt sadness and guilt in my heart for Ava. She has been getting my attention sometimes literally 24/7 and don't get me wrong I always wanted to provide her with a brother or sister but so soon??? Will she feel sad like the dog? Will I not be able to love her as much, or stop and smile at her then she reciprocates, will I not be able to get down on the floor and play with her, or her watch me play a game. Will we not have that moment to touch noses and gaze into each other's eyes and right before she turns away she gives me that sly smile like "I really love you with everything mommy"....le sigh I know this guilt will pass but I worry about it.

Someone said "your love doesn't divide it multiplies" and I know it will. I am excited to give her a brother or sister because I think she'll be a wonderful big sister.

So I have decided which I should've been doing the whole time (but in my defense was so busy all these months at work and had my own app for a baby journal for Ava) but I'm going to do a weekly update of Ava on a different day so I can continue to mark her progress as well.

Of course Mr. B says we should spend the same amount on baby furniture as we did Ava and while I'm not against it geez that was 2k. It is fantastic quality though.

We did get a flier in the mail from BRU yesterday that if you bought a set on some you got the crib for free or a really nice chair/glider and ottoman for free. The price range for the free product was about 500 dollars which is nice. They now offer layaway which is great because same with the other place we wanted to pick it out and start saving but didn't have room for it until we cleared out the room.

I haven't come up with a nickname for this little one yet but that currently is our guest room so we'll have to get rid of all of that stuff and that closet was our storage closet with suite cases and all...oh boy.

I'm going to be going through a bunch of our clothes in our closet and will actually put the desk in there I think since the desk is small and we don't use it that much.

Tuesday, August 23, 2011

Week 4/5 Update

Yes you read that right...I'm pregnant!

Week 4/5 Update

How far along?: 4 Weeks 2 Days or 5 Weeks


Maternity clothes: Nope


Sleep: Having a 9.5 month old who loves to co-sleep doesn't warrant the best sleep because I've been trying to let her cry it out for a bit and wean her of that. This has nothing to do with being pregnant though haha

Best moment this week: Finding out I was pregnant!

Movement: None


Food cravings: None so far


Food aversions: Nothing so far


Gender: Won't know that for awhile.


Labor signs: None for a long long time please!


Belly button in or out?: Innie


What I miss: I'll miss eating my steak at medium rare and having to heat up deli meats, and watching cheeses.


What I am looking forward to: September 16th when we can see our little one.


Weekly Wisdom: I haven't gotten any yet since I really haven't told anyone. But you better believe I'll be asking about the 2 under 18 months folks.


Milestones: BFP!


Weight: 160

Is everyone as shocked as I am to see this?! Based on my LMP my due date actually would be April 24th and that would put me at 5 weeks today however I'm pretty sure I ovulated late and I'm going with April 24th and then I'd be 4w2d. This is surreal.

Just like with Ava I randomly said hmm have I gotten a period (last month was my first real one) so I had a tiny bit of bleeding around the 4 week mark if you use my LMP which was like Ava so I assume it was implantation bleeding. So I took a test on a whim. I am shocked.

The whole 2 under 2 thing is crazy but Ava will be 17.5 months if I go full term. Which I have just started reading about VBAC's and it seems they don't recommend a VBAC if between the 1st section and 2nd would be less than 18 months. So I'll have to chat with my doctor about that. I know many states are regulating when doctors can schedule sections and only do it at 39 weeks and if it's less there's a reason for it. Which 39 weeks is fine. I went until 38w5d so what's 2 days difference.

We shall see. I am going to be telling Mr. B here in a minute...wish me luck haha

Friday, July 29, 2011

I have a heavy heart

Y'all. I'm not even going to apologize for not updating this damn thing...I have a lot of guilt for not doing so since I did such a great job going through the pregnancy and one day showing Ava this. But like I said when I updated via my phone (which is a p.i.t.a) that I have a journal on there that I update and can write in her baby book.

But let me get to why I'm blogging for all 26 of you to read (I hate my job thanks for making me go private you snoopy jerks).

I have never heard of what I'm about to write about until last week and let me tell you this has been eating at me all week long.

There is this amazingly beautiful boy named Tripp. He lives about 45 minutes from me. He is a little over 2 and has EB. It's a rare genetic skin disease that causes blisters by the slightest friction and open wounds.

The doctors estimated he would be gone from this world at one. He turned two on May 14th. He is getting bad everyone. Some kids have survived and manage and today on one of the prayer facebook pages a lady posted a picture of her best friend who had it as bad as Tripp and now she's grown and you can't tell (but she's a miracle). Some children have had a bone marrow transplant and gotten better but some have passed...it's very invasive since they have to give chemo first.

These pictures are devastating to me. I cry every.single.day.

Let me tell you I don't expect folks to feel the way I do...everyone is sad when they read the blog and hear stories and see pictures of this sweet little man but honestly my heart has been aching these past two days like the first few days I dropped Ava at daycare.

I have never met this angel, nor his wonderful strong mother Courtney, never talked to them on the phone or anything but I feel connected to him for some reason.

I want to do my part and will be thinking about how to get more involved.

Due to the stress of this terrible thing Courtney and her husband have split and the divorce was this month. I can only imagine the stress and pain they were under.

She now lives with her amazing supportive parents and from what I gather at least Tripp's grandma (his dad's mother) comes over a lot. I would hope that Tripp's father does but since Courtney is not only an amazing mother she's the epitomy of class and has not talked about it other then just to say we're divorcing and that's all we need to know.

Many folks have been having prayer vigils, candlightings, and have had some run's and what not. I think the 20th they're putting together a community event that Mr. B, Ava, and I will definitely be making the drive for.

I know Tripp won't be there well because that would just do so much damage to him but maybe Courtney will. And if she's not who cares...she's taking care of that baby boy.

I pray multiple times a day for him and his family and even pray with Ava and y'all she stops whatever she's doing and listens so intently when I do...any other time when I talk to her she's like "phhhhugh lady I'm doing my own thing".

So here's the link to Courtney's blog. http://randycourtneytripproth.blogspot.com/ (It won't let me insert a link all fancy like it normally does)
If you feel compelled to donate to help out because she's a saint yet again she said she'd rather us donate to Debra www.Debra.org which is an amazing company trying to find a cure and also gives tons of special supplies and guidance to families raising a child with EB.

So I donated to them yesterday but we're all still sending money to help with medical expenses. She has her address on her blog.

Little Tripp loves his tiny Elmo in one hand and Big Bird in the other...I think by now he's blind (this just happened recently) because the tissue has fused together. :( And even though he can't see it I'm finding a special card that has them on it.

I need to get involved...I just have this calling...like sometimes in life there is something that just happens and you feel compelled to do?! I don't know it's strange. But I think about them every waking minute.

I just have to get this out because I have been depressed and heartbroken since reading her blog last week. I know everything happens for a reason, bad things happen to good people, but this sweet angel does not deserve to be in the pain he's in. So I'm praying for a miracle to at least heal him 50%.

Thanks for taking the time to read all of this.

We love you Tripp! Always thinking about you.

Wear red ribbons in honor of EB and hoping to finding a cure!

Wednesday, June 29, 2011

I suck

Y'all I really suck at keeping this u date and I'm truly angry about it since I did such a good job while pregnant with Ava. This is something she could've had. I do have an app thats a baby journal that I update a lot so at least I can update her baby book.

I can not believe Ava will be 8 months on monday. Y'all I feel really sad about this. This means I need to start thinking of bday idea's. I've been saving ideas from Pinterest. Love that place!

She sprouted her first tooth a little over a week ago and a couple days ago her second popped...well we can feel it good now.
She's so close to crawling that scares me!

Sleeping well we'll talk about that on a different day haha

She "talks and sings aling to the radio"

She loves avocado's, and apples. I love making my own food for her. She's ok with carrots. Likes blueberries. Doesn't care for brown rice cereal and no longer likes sweet potatoes.

She doesn't eat much of it which is fine by me.

I love her so much and still cry some days when I leave her :(

Well that's enough for now. I'm going to try and blog twice a week starting in July.

And if there are any mistakes I'm sorry. I'm typing from my phone

Friday, May 27, 2011

Crazy Dream

Ok so for those of you who know me I have always said I have a strong feeling I'll have twins and think that it would be wonderful the next go round to have that happen and be done since that would definitely be it in Mr. B's mind haha

My father is adopted so I have no idea about his family other than I know for sure his mother had a girl first and then him but don't know if twins ran in her family or my biological grand father.

My father had 3 girls and a boy so who knows and I'm not sure if there are twins floating around on Mr. B's side or not but from what I grasped it's the woman that carries that or something...anyways yah

So last night I had a very very vivid dream that I remember to a T!

We were pregnant (don't know when and this was after we found out because we were getting our 8 week Ultrasound).

And there were two sacs....but both babies were in Sac A (this part is not true but the U/S Tech said that one sac is the mother's and one is the father's and whichever baby is in which will carry more features/personality traits of that parent)...and both were in Mr. B's. (but again we know that part isn't true) The part that can be true is two babies sharing one sac which generally not always means Identicals.

And this part couldn't happen at 8 weeks but she said both were BOYS!

Ok so I know I'm reading into this and I take some things with a grain of salt but I have a strange feeling this is all in connection to the reading even though she didn't mention twins and gave different months but just a little strange since I have NOT been thinking twins these past couple of weeks.

We'll see

Friday, May 20, 2011

The Baby Psychic Reading

Ok so I finally got my reading back from Cheri22 and here is what she said...

Ava Grace born on 11/4/2010
When it comes to your daughter they show her as someone who is always on task. Will always able to remain right where you need her. (This is totally my personality right here) I am seeing you both having similar ideas, and often enjoying to do things together that pique your interest.

Shes someone who is very mellow easy to get along with and is more than happy to just go along with the flow. (This was proven this past weekend where she sat and people watched for hours while everyone said "What a good baby") I do see her holding back a bit around new people and people that she does not know that well. A bit more quiet than she normally would be and would tend to not really offer much information about herself. (Already this is true. With Mr. B and I she talks a ton and she will around folks but it takes time..otherwise she's happy to sit and watch and smile) She does overall tends to be a bit more of a private person anyways so not really wanting to get involved in things like that.

When it comes to your daughter, she loves things that are requiring focus and attention. They show her loving gymnastics and being really good on the balance beam. (I am excited about this)
Shes always very much a girly girl and loves to interact with anything that really allows her "inner beauty queen" to come out. Always asking to play in your makeup, always wanting to wear tons of jewelry, always asking to have dress up clothes, barbies, dolls..etc. She can often convince her brothers to play tea party as long as she allows them to be dragons. (This will be interesting haha)

When it comes to career paths, they show her linked as a makeup artist. (I will be really interested to see if this happens)

When it comes to marriage I am seeing her closer to 26. They will have one girl and one boy of their own.



BOY - JUNE so this is either birth month, conceive month or the month you find out in
When it comes to your son, things for him is always about "seeing is believing" he would much rather see everything with his own two eyes rather than someone just trying to explain something to him. Hes polite and friendly, very attractive at any age, and someone who is very confident in who he is as a person. Always wanting to be able to have the chance to learn and gets frustrated when someone wont allow him that opportunity. You will find that someone will think that they are doing your son a favor by trying to explain something to him, giving him as much detail as they possibly can, and trust me your son totally gets it, but he wants to see it for himself. Always wondering how the world works and would rather see it for himself.

He loves soccer, both to watch and to play and is often one of the faster kids on his team. Hes not always the best at scoring, but he has fun and he tries his best.

Hes always good with pushing for things to be done. Can be someone who is very much the type to lead people to the right direction, giving them the motivation to continue forward. always full of ideas, so if your ever stuck on something just give him the information and he can usually be fairly creative and provide you with the information you need to continue to move forward.

When it comes to career paths, they show your son linked to working in a sales field. being able to travel a bit with meeting with current clients. I get the impression that this is a "service" that they provide rather than him selling a product. (He would be a lot like Mr. B in that respect)

When it comes to marriage I am seeing him closer to 25. They will have one girl and one boy of their own.


BOY - August so this is either birth month, conceive month or the month you find out in
When it comes to your son, hes someone who is always going to be very physical. Always having a bit more of a stocky body style and always really interested in playing sports that are a bit more physical. Likes things like rugby, and football.. things that allow a bit more contact and more of a physical play.

Hes a bit more on the quiet side. Not really interested in sharing his feelings. He will tell you what he is thinking or how he is feeling based on trying to be very good with just stating the facts and always thinks that its obvious to everyone. You will find in school is often the one that really does not like it. Hes always going to be social but does not want to be stuck learning things that he finds to be useless. Sometimes just needs that gentle little push in finding things that make him excited about it. In high school is able to join the various teams (including wrestling) and to be able to remain on the team, he has to have good grades.

He loves anything that is linked to science and discovery and will always be interested in things like that when he is younger. You will find that he is always very observant, always getting right down to the ground to take a look at a grasshopper that someone just found.. or perhaps a worm.. Hes always good about just leaving things where he sees them rather than picking them up and moving them. When it comes to career paths, they show him working in law. I do see him having to goto court, and is usually defending someone. (Everything even sports sounds just like Mr. B...so Ava must be like me, and the "third child" will be like Mr. B...I guess the "2nd child" will be a mix)


When it comes to marriage I am seeing him closer to 28. They will have one girl and one boy fo their own.


Very interesting!!!

So what's crazy is that potentially (and of course this is all in believing this stuff however her results are pretty spot on for the most part) I could potentially get pregnant the rest of this month and find out next month, or get pregnant next month, or it could be August, or for a June birth September, or for an August birth November...which is when for sure we said we'd probably really start trying.

I didn't ask her if the sequence was a for sure as far as if the June one came first or she just saw a June and she thinks its the next one but could be number 3.

I'm also interested to see if it will be two boys because in my family all the women go girl, boy, girl, boy etc.

Only the men have boys first.

None the less this is pretty cool and I wish I would've paid the extra few bucks to get the whole family stuff done.

oh well

Monday, May 2, 2011

I suck

At updating...truly I do.

I've been trying to stay as busy at work as possible so it will seem a little less painful but that usually doesn't do the trick.

I am searching a ton for a new job and have found a possibility but still not sure Mr. B will go for it.

If I get an interview I'll let you know more about it.

Anyways La Rue she's just blossoming into this grown child already. I get so sad to think that on Wednesday she'll already be 6 months old. Time does need to slow a little.

She can sit a little by herself now and we just got her tray for her Bumbo and let her test out banana's for the first time in the meshy thing. I don't think they were fully ripe because she would make a funny face haha....brown rice cereal was a no go as well as green beans.

So I said I was going to throw the ol "don't do fruit first" thing out the window...whatever works.
So we'll try nanners for a few more days and introduce Avacodo and/or Sweet Potato.

Some of you know I have gone back and forth on the earring debate...I just wish my pediatricians office did it earlier than 6 months and I don't think I would've felt so bad...for some reason I just think she'll feel the pain more now than she would've at 3 months...that's silly I'm sure and normally she's great with pain like me....so I am now leaning towards getting them down but we'll see what happens on Friday haha

I need to get Ava some balloons for her 6 month birthday on Wednesday. She's flirting like crazy and just smiles at everyone.

The sleeping thing yah it sucks. I know now she's used to it but what can I do? I need sleep too. So I've been doing my best to keep putting her back in but once midnight-1 rolls around I have to give in to function the next day.

I'm trying everything possible. I wish I had enough vacation to take a couple of days to hang with her and get her going.

Mr. B is applying for a new job and if he gets it eventually we'd have to move closer to where we used to live...part of me would like that being close to some friends and part of me really likes being where we're at as far as being kind of far away and it's quiet. I would for sure miss being closer to LSU and the bigger town because we'd still have to drive 25 minutes into New Orleans.
Houses are so much more and so is electricity because it's a different company.

We'll see though

I'm off to do some real work...soon I'll post some pictures