Friday, July 30, 2010

Lucid Dream

Ok I had read some girls saying how they had these during pregnancy and I honestly thought they were kind of full of shit haha

But I had one last night.

Now if my birth goes that easy I'll thank all the different Gods in this world!
I went in and things were going normal you know...I know I had an epidural and literally 5 minutes after the epi I pushed 2 and helped pull her out!

They cleaned her up and I saw this thing once on a Baby Story that I thought was really cool the grandma had started it with her kids but right after the baby is born or cleaned up the momma smells the babies breath. I know it sounds odd but I thought it was something cool and different and you only get to experience your babies first breath smell once haha

And so they brought her over but had her in an outfit already and she had a burp cloth on her and I went to smell her and she threw up haha and I wiped it all up and cuddled and what not.

She wasn't as big as I think she is going to be. I would say 7.5 lbs is what she was. She had a ton of hair and it was blackish like mine was when I was born. She did have hazel eyes though!

And then Ava in real life now started kicking the shit out of me! At 3:30am ....she's always sleeping during that time and she didn't stop for a good 30 minutes. I was like how erie is that?! haha

So it'll be interesting to see how big she is, how her birth is, and what she'll look like based off of that dream.

I have this fun little site I went and put info in and this was the delivery prediction it gave me....


Just about the time you think you can't handle hearing one more "when is that baby going to pop?", your baby will decide to make it's appearance.

We predict your baby will be born 3-7 days before its due date. Your baby will most likely be born in the morning.

Justmommies predicts that your baby will weigh approximately 7.0 pounds and that your labor will be about 12 hours long.

Weekly Update: Week 25

How far along? 25 Weeks

How big is baby? About 13.5 inches in length and weighs 1 and half pounds. (My child already weighed in at 1.5 lbs last week per the U/S haha so she is probably a little plumper this week

Weight gain/loss? Ok I almost shit myself ok...no lie. At my 5 month I was up 7lbs and at 6 month I was up a total of like 19lbs but I went to a different doctor on a different scale. I have a serious hard time believing that I gained 12lbs in a month. Yes my belly is far bigger and the babe did some serious gaining and I'm sure everything else did too but even Mr. B agrees that I haven't really gained weight in my legs or arms so belly and boobs don't make up 12lbs in a month. So I'm going to pay close attention when I go in for my 7 month at my normal doctors scale because I don't think it's that high.

Maternity clothes? some and then just the dresses. I won some khaki capri's and a cute maternity shirt on Ebay and need to find another shirt or two to win

Stretchies? just on the boobs boooooo

Sleep? getting worse. If I'm not up going to the bathroom literally 3 times in the middle of the night I'm constantly flipping from left to right and have 3 pillows trying to help me

Best moment this week? Getting to another week and Uncle Ben coming to get the rest of the stuff out of Ava's room!

Movement? seriously I think my girl may end up being a boxer! She is hitting/kicking/punching all over all the time. And she really dislikes it when I move from right to left on my side at night haha

Food cravings? nothing out of the ordinary but soda which really sucks

Food aversions/foods that make me sick? nothing really whoot

Gender? GIRL!!!!!

Labor signs? none..I have been having a little tightness but honestly I don't know if it's Braxton Hicks or not.

Birth Prep? We had our hospital tour last week and I'm so excited about the location we have picked! I'm going to start my pre-natal yoga this week as well

An outer-innie? both

What I miss? sleeping, and honestly drinking

What I am looking forward to? Getting to do the little things in Ava's room this weekend and in about 2 weeks putting together her furniture!

Milestones? Viability Day was a great day but this week is just one step closer to her being able to really survive with no long term side effects

New things this week? Ava is moving so much but last night I had my first lucid dream of the birth and what she looked like. And honestly after I was having it and had her she woke me up at 3:30 kicking the shit out of me which she's never up at 3:30...odd!

Weekly Wisdom? Honestly I really haven't gotten any but I'm starting to get tons of folks asking me when I'm due

Emotions? Last week in check...this past week out of freaking check! Ugh it was a bad week but I think Mr. B and I have finally figured out how to handle it!

30 Day Challenge- Day 10

My Greatest Fears

Losing Mr. B especially on the road where I couldn't get to him fast enough

Losing Ava (still in womb or out)

Losing our jobs and losing our house

Not being a good wife, mother, and friend

This country not turning back around

Thursday, July 29, 2010

30 Day Challenge- Day 9

What was my wedding like?


ok y'all I'm really tired but I'm going to do this

I had a fantastic time at my wedding once it cooled down a bit! I got so sick the day before and started throwing up and was dehydrated the day of the wedding, but hey I looked skinnier haha

I think I had a glass of champagne and then just drank water the rest of the time.


Me and my girls


The wedding/reception area



Me and Mr. B :)

Entrance


Cake Pull....it's a south Louisiana tradition....all the girls pull the pulls and they have different charms....wealth, travel, engagement, baby etc

I'm too tired to put anymore on but you get the gist haha

Wednesday, July 28, 2010

30 Day Challenge- Day 8

What is Romance to me?

hmm anytime where Mr. B and I actually have real alone time to talk whether that be walking through a mall, or at a dinner, or at home cooking. It just seems like we're always so busy that we never just get to talk.

When we're out in public and Mr. B grabs my hand or kisses my forehead (I always melt with that one)

When Mr. B does something around the house or runs to the store for me.

When Mr. B and I go on vacation alone and just have our own time.

Even though this maybe strange when Mr. B has my back in a situation even if it may make his family or friends mad because we're a unit.

When Mr. B and I share wine, eat prosciutto and fresh mozzarella haha

I'm sure theres more but even though most of these things aren't super romantic like in the movies this is what I love

Tuesday, July 27, 2010

30 Day Challenge- Day 7

Senses-What are my senses doing right now?

Taste- I have gyro breath haha...I actually am about to pop some gum in

Feel- The keyboard and mouse

See- This wonderful computer screen I stare at far too often...a bunch of numbers and an analysis I just did

Hear- I'm on a conference call for work booooo

Smell- Honestly nothing...it's heaven because unfortunately my cubicle is right by the deck which people smoke on...and so then they come back in, it stinks!

Monday, July 26, 2010

Hospital Tour

So yesterday was our hospital tour. It was supposed to be about 1 hour and 15 minutes and I think it ended right at an hour which was perfect.

There wasn't too much walking about about 30 minutes worth so I'm glad that I did it this month instead of waiting until next because my sciatic was hurting and standing that long was getting to me.

So they just talked about the hospital. Which I'm having Ava at a Woman's Hospital who has a level 3 ranked NICU the highest in the state which makes me feel great. All they do obviously are deliver babies/take care of women.

They deliver 8,000 babies a year so they're very efficient haha

Then the lady from Cord Blood talked to us which I was already thinking of donating anyways. Mr. B started asking me about banking ourselves and yes I think it's a great idea it's pricey and I'd rather Ava give to some other child then us hopefully never using it...and of course if she ever does need Stem Cells she can get them from that bank. Which all of their banks go to Duke University where they all train.

Anywho then we went to check out the Labor and Delivery suites.
The waiting room is very very nice! Nice plush leather/suede seats and a huge area which is nice.

They give 4 passes for folks to come in (which can be switched out) during labor. When it's time for delivery then they ask just 3 people be in the room. But they have beepers too to give to family so it will go off once Ava is born and they can come in.

The birthing room is huuuuuge! I was so excited to see that it won't be cramped in there. And if we do have to have a c-section they allow Mr. B and one other person which is not usually the norm which is cool.

They also have birthing tubs, bouncing balls, and bars but I have decided against doing anything like that. You girls rock who are doing it/or have done it haha

The only bummer is that they don't want you eating. They'll give clear liquids, ice chips, and said sometimes jello or a Popsicle. But she was like "you know if you've been in labor for 12 hours we'll give you a Popsicle"

I started laughing because I can picture it like a movie...12 hours in and this nice nurse hands me a Popsicle and I throw it back in her face and yell "a Popsicle?! a Popsicle?! I haven't eaten in over 12 f'n hours and you f'n think an f'n Popsicle will help me?! Get the f outta here" haha

So I just told Mr. B we'll be making sure I eat beforehand. I understand them not wanting a lot of food in case of c-section but that's too long.

They also want us to shower and change into clean clothes before we get there to cut down on infection.
I'm also not allowed to shave or wax my thighs or hooha a week out boo!

But she did say if we feel more comfortable with our own gowns we can definitely wear that during delivery unless it's a c-section which they make us change for cleanliness issues.

Then we toured the mother/baby room which they really really promote baby with mom the entire time except for hearing test. They will for sure take them if I'm having a break down or need a nap before going home which I'll probably do that honestly but I like that idea.

Of course that room is smaller but the pull out couch again is leather/and suede which I thought was nice.

They have On Demand stuff for breastfeeding, baths, changing diapers, and even info for daddies which is nice.

You order off a nice menu and folks can order and eat with me. They even offer a nice romantic dinner for you and your spouse which I thought was cute and I'm quite sure my MIL will get for us haha

They just made me feel really comfortable down to bring this bag in for this time and park here for this time and then move it this time.

Just really took care of everything.

And they have OBExpress where we pre-register so I won't have to worry about that when I get there and I can call ahead.

So all in all I'm very happy that is my hospital and feel so confident that if something is wrong with Ava or myself we'll be taken care of immediately!

Now these next few months need to just fly by!

30 Day Challenge- Day 6

Favorite Foods & Go to Recipe

Honestly y'all I freaking love food. So it's really hard for me to just pick one thing

I love
Italian
French
Cajun
Creole
Seafood
Mexican

See I'm not lying.

The one thing I really hate is meatloaf...haha just hate it!

My go to recipes are

Bread Pudding

Penne A La Betsy

And Veal Scaloppini


There are more but those are just a few!

30 Day Challenge- Day 5

My Favorite Holiday/Vacation

Wow I've honestly been on so many cool vacations I don't think I can just pick one.

Childhood-
Our family reunions in Kentucky and I'm talking hillbilly, baptist, dry county Kentucky ok haha but theres this great state park lodge that reminds me a lot of Dirty Dancing and we've been going for years and the different generations wear different colored shirts and it's a great time to bond every year. Unfortunately as an adult I can't go everywhere but it's something I want Ava to experience.

Adult-
Europe for the 2nd time (I'm very lucky)
NYC for the 2nd time (again very lucky)
Dominican Republic with Mr. B
And even
Nashville with Mr. B

All vacations are great but those stand out the most to me.

Europe I got to go 9 years prior when I was 15 and spent 23 days going all over the place with a group my age and it was amazing but we were very limited on freedom and I got home sick.

But then Mr. B and I went to visit my aunt, uncle, and cousins and we went back to my favorite place on earth Rome! And it was so much better experiencing at 24 being able to drink and eat and experience things differently. Coupled with other places and even though there were some bumpy roads in that trip it still was great.

Dominican I mean yes it was our HM haha but it was such a great place to visit and experience just with Mr. B....loved it

NYC- I was lucky enough to go at 14 with my family and it was great but again limited. So at 23 Mr. B and I invited my grandparents (who I went with initially) and we had a blast. It was so great to see things as an adult and we went places we didn't before. I always say if I win the lottery and I mean the big big one I'd buy a place there and in Rome. Two favorite places!

Nashville- For Mr. B's 30th bday I surprised him with a trip to Nashville the next year for Fan Fair where for 4 days all there is, is music by the river for up and coming artists and at night at Titan Stadium you get like 3-4 big big stars. Plus Mr. B used to live there and he loves it and country music. We got to hang with his old friends and just drink and listen to music every day...who wouldn't love that?!

30 Day Challenge- Day 4

Day 4 is 10 songs everyone should listen to.

1. Brown Eyed Girl by Van Morrison- because all of us brown eyed girls know most songs are always about the blue eyed beauties so I PPH (purple puffy heart) this song

2. Time of Your Life by Green Day- This one probably is more sentimental to me but it was a song that got a group of us who went to Europe together 10 years ago (wow I feel old) through the long days and really matured us. I alwasy get teary eyed listening to it.

3. I Hope You Dance by LeAnn Womack- I know it's cheesy but come on it's a great song...very inspirational

4. Don't Stop Believin by Journey- Classic...no need for any other description

5. Don't Stop Til You Get Enough by Michael Jackson- Iconic

6. Ice Ice Baby by Vanilla Ice- Because more often then not people are always taking themselves so seriously and sometimes you just gotta have fun

7. Fools Rush In by Elvis Presley- Ok need I say more?!

8. The Butt Thing by Horace Trahan- I know most of you won't know this but it's a cajun thing and it's the song that everyone gets going to 2 steppin at events down here...I just love it!

9. WHO DAT?! by Saints Fans- haha just that chant can bring 20k people who normally wouldn't get along together in a split second...I love them, this city, and everything it stands for

10. Get Down On It by Kool and the Gang- Ok this song is so popular in Europe right now...I love how they LOVE old 70's/80's American music haha. But this song means something special to my aunt and I and just really made the visit that much more worth while last year. Everytime we each hear this song we have to text eachother and if we're riding together it's a must play haha...besides whenever you heart his song you can't help but start to do a little dance

Friday, July 23, 2010

Daycare...ugh

Ok so I knew I should've gotten serious about this 2 months ago but didn't...which isn't like me at all. But today I had time at work so I said I was going to get serious

There were two daycares that we were thinking of...

one is very close to home and they are remodeling and will even have webcasts but its the most expensive at 185 a week...they say they do offer discounts for paying monthly...but there also is a 100 registration fee and I think a few more fee's for supplies etc. She kind of said there is a wait list but insisted if we come in then we could do registration fee right now and get in (haha yah I bet theres room at 185 a week)

Then there was the private baptist daycare/school which is super close to work and that is a great price of like 155 a week. Has the 100 registration and then I think 50 in Sept and 50 in March for supplies. And on the site it says that if your child isnt a bed baby expect a 3 year wait.
But our child would be. The lady said there is a wait and it would be 25 to be put on the list but the lady that handles it was on vacation until Monday.

Then I started just calling other places
Some only took kids 2 years and up
Some had wait lists up to 10 places ahead of me

There was one even closer to our house that I think was about 150...they do some bible teachings which is nice and they even have key cards to get in for security..so I did add my name to that wait list

Then there was another where the first lady was kind of snotty but she gave me to another lady who was sweet and I think it was about 140 and she put me on the wait list and said by Feb that there should be room.

There were like 2 others that were rude or had really long lists

Then I called one that is pretty close to home that I drive by a lot...it does look older but hey as long as the inside is clean and the people are great that's not that big of a deal to me.
Well it's only 110 a week and a 50 registration and I think 50 for supplies! The lady in the infant room is a grandmother who's been there like 7 years. The director is great and has a 7 year old son and she's known the infant lady for a long time and her mother even worked with her so she has a great reputation.

She has room and was just easy to talk to...she just went on and on and it was great. I know the price is appealing but that's not the reason why I just got a good vibe from her.
So I'm going to try and set up a time next week to go take a tour to know for sure but this is looking promising folks!

30 Day Challenge- Day 3

What I'm Most Proud Of:

I'd have to say breaking the cycle. The way I grew up was a very tumultuous, great, and hellacious time.

My mother was a great mother from birth to about 4.5 years old. Keep in mind she was 17 and my father was 20 when they had me.

They made it about a year or so I guess and then my mother got with a man that she later had 3 children with. From about 4.5-9ish she was under his control and he was scary...very very violent. And so I just kind of pushed out most of those years.

But then she got with my step dad and he was great. But she wasn't. They both would drink together and occasionally smoke pot but she was changing as a person. She would always stay in bed and she was so moody and so mean.

So many times I got my head thrown into the wall or a brush whipped at me from across the room...sometimes I would get the most severe beatings (and when I say beatings I don't mean spankings) for things I didn't do. I was forced to raise my brothers and sister while she slept in...I would get them up, make breakfast, walk them to their classes, and walk them home, get them a snack, and help with homework.

I now look back and see she was in a serious depression. But then one day she'd be perfect and want to go to lunch and do mother daughter things.

As I grew up she got into serious drugs and would leave for days on drinking/drug binges and leave my step father (who none of the 4 kids were his) to raise us...which he did. I know he was in pain. It just got the point where she was a monster and when I was 17 we got in fight and she left me with a black eye and a busted lip. I left and then went on to college. When I couldn't afford college anymore I had to move back and she was never there.

At one point she just moved out with a different MAN folks for months and would try and come back and I would call the cops on her. She broke in one day and took a lot of stuff. But she was a mess. She gave my step father a STD and said I was dead to her and even said we were having an affair....sick honestly.

I gave my step father to eventually file for divorce after I had moved out and I'm glad he did. I haven't spoken with her since my great grandmothers funeral where she asked when I'd come and see her...I told her this wasn't he place nor time and left it at that.

I now look back and honestly think that my mother suffers from Bi-Polar Disorder which generally also includes severe depression.

There's a lot more to the story but you get the gist on the life I lived and I'm honestly so proud of who I am today. Sometimes I catch myself yelling like her and it scares me and then I just stop...I'll walk away because I don't want to be like her at all.

I know there will be times where Ava will test me but I will love her and let her know that I do.

I am so much stronger now because of it and often more times then not people say I don't act like a 25 year old because I had to deal with a lot of stuff. I haven't even touched on my dad with him not being there but me having to pretend things were ok at my grandparents when he'd come around....it wasn't cool but I know Mr. B and I will make things right and I waited until I got married and was financially stable and wanted a child which was breaking the cycle.

And for that is what I'm most proud of. The fact that I make more then my parents do with no degree, that Mr. B and I own a very nice home we can afford, that we have a lot in savings in case something happens, that we can still take trips and enjoy life, that Ava won't have everything she wants because she'll have to work for things but she'll have what she needs which is something I can't say I grew up with....that's what I'm proud of.

Ok enough of being a debbie downer haha

Weekly Update: Week 24

How far along? 24 Weeks

How big is baby? About 11.8 inches and my child is 1.5lbs hah

Weight gain/loss? Ok I almost shit myself ok...no lie. At my 5 month I was up 7lbs and at 6 month I was up a total of like 19lbs but I went to a different doctor on a different scale. I have a serious hard time believing that I gained 12lbs in a month. Yes my belly is far bigger and the babe did some serious gaining and I'm sure everything else did too but even Mr. B agree's that I haven't really gained weight in my legs or arms so belly and boobs don't make up 12lbs in a month. So I'm going to pay close attention when I go in for my 7 month at my normal doctors scale because I don't think it's that high.

Maternity clothes? some and then just the dresses. I won some khaki capri's and a cute maternity shirt on Ebay and need to find another shirt or two to win

Stretchies? just on the boobs boooooo

Sleep? getting worse. If I'm not up going to the bathroom literally 3 times in the middle of the night I'm constantly flipping from left to right and have 3 pillows trying to help me

Best moment this week? Seeing my baby girl again and knowing her heart is perfect!

Movement? seriously I think my girl may end up being a boxer! She is hitting/kicking/punching all over all the time

Food cravings? nothing out of the ordinary but soda which really sucks

Food aversions/foods that make me sick? nothing really whoot

Gender? GIRL!!!!!

Labor signs? none

Birth Prep? We have our hospital tour this Sunday (hopefully TD Bonnie doesn't cancel that) and I have put my birth plan on paper

An outer-innie? both

What I miss? sleeping, and honestly drinking

What I am looking forward to? Viability Day which is tomorrow and getting Ava's room in order

Milestones? Viability Day whooot

New things this week? Ava really is aware of when Mr. B talks with her and when I tap her she taps back...so cool...oh and it was so cool when she would kick me and I could feel it and see it on the US haha

Weekly Wisdom? Honestly I really haven't gotten any but I'm starting to get tons of folks asking me when I'm due

Emotions? In check again yesssss.....

6 Month Check Up

Well yesterday I went in for my 6 month check up...but first I had another Ultrasound since the last time she was moving around so much they couldn't get all the areas of the heart.

This time they did...which was great

I was laying there on my back and she was pushing kind of hard and all of a sudden I started to feel queasy, and light headed, and faint....

She looked at me and was like "are you ok?" and I said honestly no haha

She said turn to your left immediately! She went to get me water, and fanned me, and had a trash can next to me...it took about 5 minutes and I felt better. She said this happens alot on the back especially when someone's pushing on the belly because the Uterus weighs more and it causes that.

So she did the rest of the ultrasound with me on the left side..she was super sweet and I felt like a big ol tool haha

But we got what we needed. She only gave us 4 pictures since this was more about checking vital organs which I was fine with.
She's still a girl haha

I then had to meet with a new doctor on a different floor since mine is out on Maternity Leave. I am soooo happy I don't have to be on that floor to see a doctor. It's like cattle up there. There are like 10 reception booths and then they're like ok go down this hall, then turn this way, and then go this way and they put you in a cramped up small waiting room.

But I did see that doctor super fast which was great.

Oh I forgot the US tech said Ava weighed in at 1lb 8 ounces. Folks that's an 11 ounce gain in a month!!!!! I was shocked. So she's 24 ounces and everything I've read says the range usually stops at about 20.8...so yah she maybe my little butterball. Which I'm fine with. I was 9lbs 2.5 ounces so it won't surprise me if she's big.

Then the doctor measured my belly and said my belly was measuring bigger but that her weight was on point...but now I'm wondering if she is measuring a little big and the doc didn't think about how she is over the max but its only 3 ounces so whatever. She thought maybe Ava was positioned strangely.

Literally 3 minutes with that doc and I was sent on my way! I was shocked it was so quick and that's the only good thing about that doc vs mine. But mines cool and I like her.

So next month I have to do my Gestational Diabetes test. I was glad I didn't have to come back in 2 weeks to do that and then 2 more weeks for my 7 month because I'm trying to save as much sick time as possible.

And I scheduled my doc visit for 8:30am because I plan on getting in t 7:30 to get the juice and the lady comes in about 8:30 for blood work and I'll have her do that and eat a snack and wait to see the Nurse Practitioner. She's the NP for my doc so from now on I'm seeing her. Well actually I think I'll just see her this next go round because I think my doc is back in September which is cool.

But the other doc was like ok next month you'll do your 7 month and then you'll start to come in every two weeks and I was like standing their frozen. I can't believe it's coming so fast!

30 Day Challenge- Day 2

A day late meh...

Day 2's challenge is to see what a day in the life of Mrs. B is like...it's boring I'm warning you haha

7:45am- Get up, shower, get ready
8:15am- Leave for work
9:00am- Get to work (45 minutes to go 15 miles folks)
9-4:30pm- Work, go run errands, eat lunch, hang out haha
4:30-5:30- Drive home...yep it takes even longer on the way home and I take the back way which saves me time!
5:30-5:50- I watch my DVR'd Days of Our Lives...don't judge
5:50-Start Dinner
6:30- Eat Dinner
7-11pm- Hang with Mr. B watching shoes (or me in the bedroom watching what he calls my reality junk haha), and surfing the net....sometimes this includes laundry, and cleaning up as well.
11-12:30- sleep
12:30-12:45-Ava has me up to use the bathroom
12:45-4:00- Sleeping
4-4:15-Ava has me up to use the bathroom
4:15-7:45 generally start to toss and turn because of the discomfort haha but it's all worth it

On the weekends I'm lazy honestly...I really am

Wednesday, July 21, 2010

30 Day Challenge- Day 1

Since I'm sure some of you maybe sick of reading about our little Butterball (heck sometimes I even feel that way) I had been thinking about doing this from my friend Mrs. A and then my other friend Jin decided to do it too so I said I'M DOING IT!

It will be a 30 Day Challenge on getting to know me!

So for Day-1

About me....I hope you get to know me a little better!

I'm 25 (will turn 26 in just 2 short weeks gahhh). My husband is 33 and will turn 34 on Week 37 of pregnancy (so he's kind of hoping our little Ava will make her appearance on his birthday hah).

I'm originally from Iowa...actually grew up on the Mississippi where people boat and it's clean (unlike down here since it travels so much and gets ucky)...it's kind of funny since I still live very close to the river just 14 hours away hah.

I moved down to Louisiana in December of 05 (just a few months after Hurricane Katrina) many people thought I was crazy for doing so. But my aunt and uncle lived down here and I didn't' have much going on and to be honest it was the best decision financially since so many folks had left and didn't come back and there were many jobs to be had at about 3+ dollars an hour then what I was making.

I settled in and right away they were transferred. Story of my life right. But I loved the charm of southern Louisiana....it was like nothing I've ever seen before.

I can not get enough of the accents whether its the Nawlins, or New York West Bank, or the bayou La Rose, or Lafayette, or even cajun Lutcher area. It's so fun...all the get togethers everyone has (granted its usually an excuse to party) and don't get me started on my love for the drive thru daiquiri shoppes (and no even now the driver can not have the straw in the cup...but the passenger still can hah)

The food is out of this world too!

So my aunt and uncle had introduced me to my husband when they still lived here and shortly after we started dating and then I was moved in and we were settled. 9 months later he proposed and on May 24, 2008 we were married.

I am very blessed to say that we had a plan of paying off our credit card debt and then it was game on for a child and our first try we got pregnant! We know how fortunate we are to have had that happen and we're over the moon excited!

We're due November 13th and we're having a little girl....Ava Grace. Who's incredibly spoiled by so many already.

We are in love with LSU football and have very pricey season tickets and tailgate like no other! Honestly there aren't many schools that tailgate like us!

We love our life that we lead and are very happy!

Sunday, July 18, 2010

Weekly Update: Week 23

How far along? 23 Weeks

How big is baby? 8 inches and over a pound

Weight gain/loss? Only doing doctor weight so up 7lbs and we'll find out next week how much more since I know I've gained since my trip back home hah

Maternity clothes? some and then just the dresses. I've started searching Ebay again because I no longer fit into Medium shirts

Stretchies? just on the boobs boooooo

Sleep? getting worse. If I'm not up going to the bathroom literally 3 times in the middle of the night I'm constantly flipping from left to right and have 3 pillows trying to help me

Best moment this week? just making it another week is big

Movement? seriously I think my girl may end up being a boxer! She is hitting/kicking/punching all over all the time

Food cravings? nothing out of the ordinary but soda which really sucks

Food aversions/foods that make me sick? nothing really whoot

Gender? GIRL!!!!!

Labor signs? none

Birth Prep? We have our Hospital tour this coming Sunday. Starting to go over Birth Plan and check off what I want with Mr. B

Belly button in or out? I'm not sure what to call it. An outer-innie?

What I miss? sleeping, and honestly drinking

What I am looking forward to? Another Ultrasound in a few days!

Milestones? Almost making it to Viability!

New things this week? I noticed my feet swelling a little after being on a plane and standing around and then coming home to cook standing...I've resorted to using a dining chair when possible.

Weekly Wisdom? Honestly I really haven't gotten any but I'm starting to get tons of folks asking me when I'm due and one lady even said I looked "precious" that made me feel good haha

Emotions? I freaked on Mr. B again for something small bleh but for the most part I think my hormones are evening out so not too many crazy tirades from me.

Tuesday, July 13, 2010

Busy

Sorry for being MIA but after getting back and finding the time to update on the drama post haha I had to scurry to do all the laundry and I had to head to Austin on Monday all week to help train the girl that does my job here.

So I won't be back until Friday evening and we may have company (I knew I should've washed the sheets that I pulled off the bed this weekend) but it's my BIL who would be helping Mr. B move the tv and table out of Ava's nursery.

But I need that done to clean the carpets and touch up the paint so hey it needs to get done.

Especially because the following weekend Auntie Mel is coming and we're going to meet up with Auntie Shannon to plan the Louisiana shower. And then we have our hospital tour....geez it's getting serious now folks! haha

On a side note my back has been in pain for the past week and it's seriously at monumental proportions.

I have never gone to the chiro because I'm afraid because I'm really really considering going to one who specializes in pregnancies because I know I need an adjustment....a massage just won't do.

le sigh

oh well it'll be worth it!

I'm off to try and get some sleep since I have such early mornings

Friday, July 9, 2010

Drah Mah!

Ok I'll write my fun post later but let's get to the juicy stuff.

Ok my step mom and I don't get a long...but normally it's ok when we're around each other. She's very passive aggressive and into herself when I don't know why because she honestly offers nothing!

She doesn't like the fact that I'm my dad's daughter and the fact that he wasn't a father for so many years so he talks about how proud he is of me and his regrets...and that pisses her off.

Anyways she's rude to everyone and plays a lot of mind games...she's a snake

So Friday we have our normal family dinner we always have and she sits down at the end with the kids...I mean come on!

Well I have a sister about 19/20 and I invited her to come. So she does. She sits on my left and my dad sits on her left. And we say 'Ugly Step Mom why don't you come sit down here with the adults" but she doesn't...she chooses to alienate herself and sit with the kids and I know it's because she gets really uncomfortable around me let a lone me and my sister!

She doesn't talk much which is a freaking shocker! But we're all ok.

Saturday is my baby shower and she'll probably be late yada yada yada

She actually is again ok and buys one of the cutest dresses and shoes out of everyone. I'm shocked! Doesn't talk a ton but whatever I don't care.

Come to find out though all the kids that came were sent downstairs and weren't allowed to eat until the adults ate. Well immediately she calls up my little sister who's 8 and my aunt's daughter who's 10 and was a fantastic hostess taking drink orders etc says nicely "Oh GG says the kids have to eat last and let the adults go first" she barks back at her "Well I'm her mother and I say she can eat now" my grandma's best friend overheard this and was so angry by her tone she almost said something but told my GG later. Well we haven't told my aunt because she would call her up and go off on her like nobodies business. But seriously you're going to be a bitch to a 10 year old? She couldn't have waited an extra 20 minutes to eat when there were tons of kids playing downstairs...but that's the way my step mom is...she has to push the limits and change the rules if she didn't come up with them.

Anyways my little sister stays the night along with my aunt and her kids. The next day is my dad and ugly step mom's bbq but we have some time to hang out.

So my aunt's one daughter who's 8 comes to lay on me because she just loves to get love from everyone. Meanwhile my aunts 10 year old and the 8 year old twin and my sister are playing on the laptop in the same room.
My sister then comes over and sits on the couch with us and us 3 play a scavenger hunt game in a magazine...all is well.

We go to the party and step mom is running around like a crazy person and we say relax and have a drink.
Her family completely alienates themselves from us and we're all left to try and introduce ourselves.

Step mom hates her sister who has a 13 year old who she's never really parented and happens to be pregnant again by a little person (with whom by the way my step mom makes fun of behind their backs)...she's due 2 weeks after me.

I have met her a few times a couple of years ago but she acted like she never met me. Here I am shucking corn and working and step mom is introducing me and I say oh yah we've met a few times a couple years ago.

Then my step mom actually shocks the hell out of me...she starts saying how great I look, and I'm not showing from the back and how cute my belly is and even rubs my belly...and then she's like oh sorry I shouldn't have done that and I'm like oh no it's fine as long as it's not strangers.

That was it and we went on our way...(this came to be me a pawn in the play because she did that to piss her sister off because she never once complimented her sister and how she looked just to piss her off)

Throughout the night I would chit chat here and there when running into step mom ok.

Monday we don't see them all is well.

Tuesday she knows we're leaving and she calls my GG and starts off with what did we leave at the party etc...then starts crying and says how my little sister broke her heart because she was giving her a bath on Monday night and my sister was crying saying how it doesn't feel like I'm even her sister because I paid so much attention to my aunts daughter and not her and maybe I don't love her anymore!!!!!

And that she still likes Mr. B because he complimented her on one of her drawings (which I did too keep in mind) but right there as a parent you should diffuse the situation from the 8 year old and say "oh no honey that's not it at all...she loves you very much that's why she buys you nice things and chats with you and she tells you she loves you all the time"
but no...she egged it on!

And she proceeded to say that she would not be coming over with my brother and sister to say goodbye and my dad could come on his own and she has tried for years and years to be friendly and have a relationship and she's done with it.

She is completely THROUGH WITH ME FOR GOOD!

ok thank you I'm thrilled! My GG was in shock but just kept saying I didn't see any of that.

I knew when I heard her saying that it was about me.

So she tells me the story and I get pissed.

She calls both of my aunts and they're all like are we sure my sister didn't lie because honestly she's taking right after step mom...and everyone is mad because my dad wasn't there for me I'm more like the littler sister and daughter to my grandparents.

So everyones mad.

I text my dad and told him we'd discuss her when he got there but I'd love to see my sister and brother before I left because who knows how long it'll be.

Well he came straight from work which is close by and he hates confrontation so much and could tell he was uncomfortable but you know what it's something that had to be addressed.

He made up so many excuses...she's on her period ...listen I've never met someone have a period more then this woman ok...I mean every function always! Its for attention

Then we don't like her (my aunt and I) because when things were really bad he'd complain to us about her...I shot that down and told him no.

Then he brought up my aunt and uncle pushing her to drink and finally my GG said "what does that have to do with Mrs. B" amen!

Then I brought up their trip....they are going to see her mom in FL Nov 19th-through Thanksgiving. Of course he won't get to see his first grandchild. When this got brought up he said they'd have to switch days to which she through a huge fit....a couple of days later she was fine and said they'd move it to February.

Then she was sneaky and had her mom buy the airfare for the original dates and would ignore my GG everytime she asked about it.

I know she did that in spit of me...and heres the kicker. The sister thats due 2 weeks later yah she wants her mom to come up for the birth but she won't be able to because step mom, dad, and siblings will be visiting her in FL.

So step mom is f'n two people with babies.

I said all my dad had to do was fly down, stay 2 days, and meet her in FL...but he was all oh it as planned.

She has a 21 year old son who she thinks his shit doesn't stink. He's an nice kid but honestly never comes around for our family functions and one time at a nice club for Easter he fell asleep with his head down at the table...so talk about disrespectful. Well I said even if he got a girl pregnant today and we had planned a family vacation you better believe she's cancel the whole trip for them or she'd stay back to go see her first grandchild and he finally agreed.

I told him she's making him and my brother and sister choose and that's not right that we don't have to be friends.

I said that she hasn't treated me right in a long time. He did say that his kids come first but I don't believe him.

I told him that I didn't want my brother and sister growing up thinking I don't love them or want to see them because that's not the case. So I tell him what she told my GG and he said that's not how it went at all.

The sister called on Monday bitching about how rude I was ....how I didn't care to talk to her (keep in mind she didn't say shit to anybody else in my family) and then Step Mom who doesn't even like her sister gets on this deal.

Dad and SM end up screaming for 30 minutes about me and sister is in the hallway listening and just like SM comes in and goes "yah Mrs. B didn't pay attention to me either" there was no big meltdown in the bathtub like SM tried telling GG.

So my dad put the kibosh on my sister and made her go to her room. Fucking snakes!

I said with her making her comments that she's through with me she has crossed the line and I don't know what she expects to happen with the family but she has alienated herself more and my GG even said I was like a daughter to my dad which shocked me.

And I said from now on if we're in the room together I'll say hi and that's it...I will not entertain her shit and play fakey fakey like she likes to do. I am through too.

She is just so full of it and made a mole hill out of an ant pile and all of it was false too! I don't know if she really thought that my dad wouldn't tell the true story or if she really believed my family would believe her over me or what but this is seriously going to backfire.

If you are still reading you're a saint I tell you.

ugh that woman is fowl and I wash my hands now of her!~

and there's so much more over the years but honestly you get the drift

Thursday, July 8, 2010

Quick Post

So we're back and getting settled in...most of the laundry was done.

I'll give a play by play later but just wanted to say I had a great time until my evil step mom crossed the line but I'll tell that story later.

Still didn't ruin my overall time though!